It is normal that people sometimes have doubts about how they should interact with other important people in their lives. In all families there can be fantastic stories of family bonding, as well as stories full of disappointment and frustration . In this sense, it is necessary to work with families so that they realize the importance of children and adolescents being able to have a good emotional bond with their grandparents.
There are children who are happy to have incredible ties with their grandparents, but there are also other children who complain because they are very critical people and do not feel good being by their side. Just as there are many ways to be a parent, there are also many other ways you can be a grandparent.
Although there is no clearly defined role , grandparents have a somewhat complicated role since they must bond with their grandchildren but at the same time they cannot step in the footsteps of their adult children. This is not especially easy, especially when they have to take care of the grandchildren when their adult children are working or have to do some chores. Although there is no instruction manual on how to be a grandparent , today I want to give you some tips so that you can become a great grandfather or a great grandmother without danger that your relationships with your adult children can be harmed.
Do not criticize the parenting style of your children
Even if you disagree with the parenting style of your adult children, never say it in front of your grandchildren. If you do not agree with them and you feel that it is a really important topic to talk about, it is necessary to do it when the children are not around. Your grandchildren do not benefit at all from seeing conflict situations between their parents and their grandparents.
Don’t break the rules
If the parents of your grandchildren do not allow them to carry out some specific activities such as playing video games, eating certain foods at certain times or on specific days … then it is necessary that you do not make them available to them. Don’t think you will have a better relationship with your grandchildren for doing things that they are not allowed to do.
Tell them family stories
You can tell your grandchildren funny stories about your life and the lives of their parents when they were little. You can show them many photos… the objective is to enrich their lives, give them stories and listen to things that they are also part of in some way, because although they were not present because they were not born, they are stories of their family. Also, this humanizes parents and children enjoy.
It is necessary that both your children and your grandchildren feel involved in their lives. Spend time listening to them and having close conversations. When they need or ask for it, don’t hesitate to offer your advice , but remember that before offering it you should ask if they really want to hear it or if they prefer a shoulder to cry on.
Don’t have favorites …
… And if you have them, don’t let it show. It is true that you may find that some of your grandchildren are easier to relate to than others , but they all have unique qualities that make them different and special. It is important that all your grandchildren feel that they have a special place in your heart.
Play with them
It is very important to teach the importance of play to grandchildren. Teach them that getting older does not mean that life becomes serious or bleak. Aging only means physically fulfilling years, but the soul does not understand age and it does understand love.…